Sunday, 30 October 2016

Emotions

Its crazy how much you can really care about someone, set limits to that so you dont hurt them, and then wish you can go back on your feelings.  It's funny how we set limits, so that he or she doesn't fall for us, but we end up falling for them, and we end up getting hurt when we pushed them away to begin with. So what now? How do you keep being friends, without feeling hurt, without feeling like your heart is going to burst. All this because you pushed them away for being scared that they would fall for you, and the minute they fall, you realized you fell just as quickly, if not sooner. If only you knew how much I really cared. If you knew I wish I could take it all back and tell you that I feel the same way about you ...

Friday, 3 July 2015

JUST REMEMBER

I heard my mom once tell me: Love yourself first darling, and the rest will follow...

If you really like someone let them go ... wait stop. NO. Heres the deal, love now thats a big word. What does it really mean to love someone? And can we really love someone when we don't love ourselves completely. If you're out there thinking I just wish I could make him fall in love with me, or  I just wish I can make her fall in love with me. STOP.
#1: Ask yourself: "Do I love myself, in and out, and in between?!"
If you answer no to the first question, then ask yourself this:
#1b: "How do I expect someone to fall in love with me, if I don't love myself from A to Z?"
Some people are going to try and tell you that you can never fully love yourself, or that having that special someone in your life, can teach you to love yourself. AGAIN STOP. You bake the cake first then eat it.
#2: Ask yourself why it should matter so much if that person does indeed like you, or is attracted to you. We often bring ourselves down by making someone so important, when in reality, while yes they may be important, we are just as IMPORTANT if not more important considering self love reigns.
And no not self love in the conceited way, but to love each part of you, from the inside out, and to realize your potential and WORTH.
#3: If that person doesn't give you the moment of day, two words: SCREW THEM. HAHA Just kidding, WHO CARES!
If someone can't realize how special you are, if they can't see your worth and value, then guess what THEYRE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. There not even worth a single thought in that lovely head of yours.
But then again, you'll start making excuses for them, and think, but I really love them, or I really care about them, well GUESS WHAT, it seems like a one person effort here. If its not reciprocal, YOU ARE WAISTING YOUR PRECIOUS TIME AND ENERGY.
#4: The greatest love that exists is to love yourself, and once you do, you will realize that nothing else matters, and maybe JUST MAYBE then, you're prince charming or princess diary will pass your way,

AND please remember not to be desperate, don't chase anyone. Realize how special you are and open your eyes to see that when you chase after someone, they're most likely to run away from you. BREATHE, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and yes we've heard this  BILLION TIMES, but think about it this way, if we all believed it the first time, we wouldn't be so darn hard on ourselves, thinking the worst and expecting love from others, when the most important thing is to love yourself!

Just remember:
#1: Do not despair
#2: Realize your worth and value
#3: Love yourself inside and out
#4: Have faith

Saturday, 31 January 2015

A little reminder

As this day is coming to it's end, I share with you a little something to keep in mind: Everyday as a student we find ourselves facing two options when it comes to dealing with stress : the first is to complain and feel sorry for ourselves and ask "why me?!", the second is to take that stress and turn it into motivation. 
We are so lucky to even be able to experience such a feeling. Imagine this : we actually get to stress over something as great as our education, while at the same time, there's someone in the hospital right now who is stressing over having to go through another day of chemo, while a homeless man will spend the day stressing to find a place tonight to sleep in this cold weather, while some mother is working three jobs plus overtime and stressing that she won't be able to pay rent this month and will barely be able to put food on the table, while some child in Africa is stressing on how he's going to survive another day without food and clean water to drink, while some child in a Syrian refugee camp is stressing about what clothe he's going to wrap his tiny hungry and bony body with, as winter approaches, while some child in Iraq is stressing about having to live under the occupation of monsters who are killing from left to right in vain, while another child in Gaza is stressing about living another day under the siege, and we, yes that's you and I, are stressing over school ... Hey well at least we have the privilege of going to school right?
So next time you're feeling stressed, feel blessed instead.
‪#‎Hamdila‬ ‪#‎CountingBlessings‬ ‪#‎Blessed‬

Wednesday, 20 August 2014

There is always a way out

Today marks the 5 year anniversary of the day one of highschool friends tried to attempt suicide, but gratefully did not.

In 10th grade my best friend at the time, called me one night telling me that she was contemplating to commit suicide. She said she had had enouph and was tired of living her life. When I heard those words I started crying while speaking on the phone with her. I remember calling my mom to come, and we spent the whole night trying to convince her that there was a better way out, that she didnt have to take her life, and that we loved and cared about her. It wasnt easy but we were finally able to help her realize that she didnt have to act on her impulse. You see, I was just hanging out with her a couple of days previous to that, she was always smiling and laughing, no sign of being unhappy. But thats just it, some people like to bottle things up and hide their feelings from everyone. Some people arent' able to cope so openly like others. Some people will pretend like everything is okay, when in reality it is not. Please I beg each and everyone of you that if you see someone feeling down, help them. Approach people who seem like they aren't doing okay, or are alone. If someone reaches to you for help, offer your help, and if you dont think you can, see if someone else will. Highschool starts for most students in another two or three weeks, I really dont want to put on the news and hear of another kid who committed suicide because they were targetted everyday, and bullied for looking a certain way, I dont want to put on the news, and see how a teenage girl committed suicide after some bullies pretended to be her friend just so they can spread nasty rumours about her. Stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves, your act or gesture can help save the life of someone. I bet you right now some kid is sitting at home dreading the first day of school thinking he or she will not be accepted in the eyes of their peers. Let them know that they are not alone, help them be brave. Stand up/ Speak up, dont stay silent, silence can kill.

 

Thursday, 17 July 2014

Be in control

When you wake up in the morning counting your blessings, feeling happy as if your like on cloud 9, its beautiful outside, the birds are chirping, the clouds are all fluffy, the sun is smiling down on you and blinding you all at the same time, then suddenly you encounter this one person, who is having a really bad day and who just wants to blow off all this steam right in your face. It's like: "Hey I'm having a bad day, and you should too!!" Those kind of people used to frustrate me. But over the years, and with much experience gained, I've learned to take a step back and remain calm. We never know what people are going through in their lives, therefore we musn't assume that we are all riding the same boat. Sometimes we just simply need to smile and let things run smoothly. Don't overreact, its pointless you will add more steam and cause more frustration for your ownself. We never know if that person is undergoing a sickness, have a recent passing in their family, or is simply overcoming a rough patch. We simply don't know and hey it doesn't give them the excuse to blow up in your face, but it gives you every reason to show them what kind of a person you are by remaining calm and guided.


Its not worth getting upset, or angry. These people are doing it because they do not know better, forgive them, and carry on with your positive vibes, fight them with POSITIVITY.

"He who angers you, controls you." Imam Ali (AS)

In the meantime, have faith.

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

 I picked up this book called “ Don’t sweat the small stuff.” You see no matter how small our “problems” are, we tend make a whole lot out of them. Whether someone spoke wrongly of us (mind you they are only hurting themselves), or we missed the bus in the morning (YES IT HAPPENS!), or we just had a fight with our dear friend/s (WHY ARE THEY BEING SO STUBBURN!), we make it seem like it’s the end of the world (NO IT IS'NT). We will make a fit and spend the whole day thinking over and over and over about why this happened to us, why life is unfair,  pity, pity and MORE PITY. By focusing on the more important things our energy shifts and we learn to focus on the things that truly matter.

Make 70 excuses for your believing brothers and sisters before you judge them.” - Imam Ali (AS)

Let go of the little stuff to make room for the important stuff. Time mends or breaks things, its not your job, let time do what it has got to do, be patient, because patience is rewarding.

 In the meantime, have faith.  

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

You don't need to be in love to feel loved


We often associate the feeling of love with another individual. Now don't get me wrong, when I think of love the first thing that comes to mind is my family. I often wish I could say the same about my friends, but that’s a whole other story. But most people these day associate love with having a partner, being in a relationship. That kind of love is a beautiful thing, but what I'm trying to say, is that for those who are single, and aren't in a relationship, know that love exists in all crazy sizes and shapes. The most important kind of love in my opinion is the love you have for yourself. What does it feel like to love yourself? Waking up every morning looking in the mirror and telling yourself how beautiful you are. For instance, I love working out, I love taking care of my body, whether its spending the afternoon at the gym, or running 5K every second day, for me taking care of my body is loving myself. There is no guidebook on how to love yourself and quite frankly, I think its one of the hardest things to accomplish. We always try and find faults in ourselves; we always want others to justify what we already know. We search for compliments by everyone and anywhere and of all sorts.

You see, I have this poster hanging in my room for a couple of years now, and the title right in the middle is "What is love", and on the poster there are definitions of love everywhere by all sorts of historians and great men and woman who have died thinking they fully understood what the true essence of love is. But that's just it, we will never fully understand the true meaning of "love". Right in the corner of the poster there is a free space for me to write down what I define as "love." Its blank. I left it blank. Love is growing up with a dad who worked three jobs from sun up to sun down for years in order to provide for his family. Love is having a mother who believes in me unconditionally and who never ever underestimated my will power. Love is my parents (...) Love is praying five times a day to reach a higher purpose, love is my religion. (...)

I know how to love someone ( I’m not limiting this sentence to the partner definition). I know how to care about another, how to be there for them in all their times of need. I know how to listen, I know how to council, and give advice, I know how to call someone when they least expect it just to ask about them, I know how to be there for anyone and everyone when they need someone just for the sake of being there, I know how to hold on to someone when they are crying for hours without the need to talk. I’m the type of person who will drop everything Im doing to help another person. I’m the type of person who will be there for you unconditionally, even if we are in a fight, I’m the type of person who will lift your spirit up when you are down, I’m the type of person who will strike a conversation with a stranger in the bus who is crying and contemplating ending his life (and yes it happened this semester). I will never leave someone on their own in their time of need. I know how to love (…) The only thing is that I'm still on the journey of  fully loving myself. But hey!, I'm human afterall, and I know I'm on the right path, and heck I probably understand what it means to love myself more than anyone out there, but have I fully accomplished it? Nope not yet, but that's just it,  life is a journey, and each day I am working toward fufilling that accomplishment.

Until then, I have faith.