Wednesday, 20 August 2014

There is always a way out

Today marks the 5 year anniversary of the day one of highschool friends tried to attempt suicide, but gratefully did not.

In 10th grade my best friend at the time, called me one night telling me that she was contemplating to commit suicide. She said she had had enouph and was tired of living her life. When I heard those words I started crying while speaking on the phone with her. I remember calling my mom to come, and we spent the whole night trying to convince her that there was a better way out, that she didnt have to take her life, and that we loved and cared about her. It wasnt easy but we were finally able to help her realize that she didnt have to act on her impulse. You see, I was just hanging out with her a couple of days previous to that, she was always smiling and laughing, no sign of being unhappy. But thats just it, some people like to bottle things up and hide their feelings from everyone. Some people arent' able to cope so openly like others. Some people will pretend like everything is okay, when in reality it is not. Please I beg each and everyone of you that if you see someone feeling down, help them. Approach people who seem like they aren't doing okay, or are alone. If someone reaches to you for help, offer your help, and if you dont think you can, see if someone else will. Highschool starts for most students in another two or three weeks, I really dont want to put on the news and hear of another kid who committed suicide because they were targetted everyday, and bullied for looking a certain way, I dont want to put on the news, and see how a teenage girl committed suicide after some bullies pretended to be her friend just so they can spread nasty rumours about her. Stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves, your act or gesture can help save the life of someone. I bet you right now some kid is sitting at home dreading the first day of school thinking he or she will not be accepted in the eyes of their peers. Let them know that they are not alone, help them be brave. Stand up/ Speak up, dont stay silent, silence can kill.

 

Thursday, 17 July 2014

Be in control

When you wake up in the morning counting your blessings, feeling happy as if your like on cloud 9, its beautiful outside, the birds are chirping, the clouds are all fluffy, the sun is smiling down on you and blinding you all at the same time, then suddenly you encounter this one person, who is having a really bad day and who just wants to blow off all this steam right in your face. It's like: "Hey I'm having a bad day, and you should too!!" Those kind of people used to frustrate me. But over the years, and with much experience gained, I've learned to take a step back and remain calm. We never know what people are going through in their lives, therefore we musn't assume that we are all riding the same boat. Sometimes we just simply need to smile and let things run smoothly. Don't overreact, its pointless you will add more steam and cause more frustration for your ownself. We never know if that person is undergoing a sickness, have a recent passing in their family, or is simply overcoming a rough patch. We simply don't know and hey it doesn't give them the excuse to blow up in your face, but it gives you every reason to show them what kind of a person you are by remaining calm and guided.


Its not worth getting upset, or angry. These people are doing it because they do not know better, forgive them, and carry on with your positive vibes, fight them with POSITIVITY.

"He who angers you, controls you." Imam Ali (AS)

In the meantime, have faith.

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff

 I picked up this book called “ Don’t sweat the small stuff.” You see no matter how small our “problems” are, we tend make a whole lot out of them. Whether someone spoke wrongly of us (mind you they are only hurting themselves), or we missed the bus in the morning (YES IT HAPPENS!), or we just had a fight with our dear friend/s (WHY ARE THEY BEING SO STUBBURN!), we make it seem like it’s the end of the world (NO IT IS'NT). We will make a fit and spend the whole day thinking over and over and over about why this happened to us, why life is unfair,  pity, pity and MORE PITY. By focusing on the more important things our energy shifts and we learn to focus on the things that truly matter.

Make 70 excuses for your believing brothers and sisters before you judge them.” - Imam Ali (AS)

Let go of the little stuff to make room for the important stuff. Time mends or breaks things, its not your job, let time do what it has got to do, be patient, because patience is rewarding.

 In the meantime, have faith.  

Tuesday, 15 July 2014

You don't need to be in love to feel loved


We often associate the feeling of love with another individual. Now don't get me wrong, when I think of love the first thing that comes to mind is my family. I often wish I could say the same about my friends, but that’s a whole other story. But most people these day associate love with having a partner, being in a relationship. That kind of love is a beautiful thing, but what I'm trying to say, is that for those who are single, and aren't in a relationship, know that love exists in all crazy sizes and shapes. The most important kind of love in my opinion is the love you have for yourself. What does it feel like to love yourself? Waking up every morning looking in the mirror and telling yourself how beautiful you are. For instance, I love working out, I love taking care of my body, whether its spending the afternoon at the gym, or running 5K every second day, for me taking care of my body is loving myself. There is no guidebook on how to love yourself and quite frankly, I think its one of the hardest things to accomplish. We always try and find faults in ourselves; we always want others to justify what we already know. We search for compliments by everyone and anywhere and of all sorts.

You see, I have this poster hanging in my room for a couple of years now, and the title right in the middle is "What is love", and on the poster there are definitions of love everywhere by all sorts of historians and great men and woman who have died thinking they fully understood what the true essence of love is. But that's just it, we will never fully understand the true meaning of "love". Right in the corner of the poster there is a free space for me to write down what I define as "love." Its blank. I left it blank. Love is growing up with a dad who worked three jobs from sun up to sun down for years in order to provide for his family. Love is having a mother who believes in me unconditionally and who never ever underestimated my will power. Love is my parents (...) Love is praying five times a day to reach a higher purpose, love is my religion. (...)

I know how to love someone ( I’m not limiting this sentence to the partner definition). I know how to care about another, how to be there for them in all their times of need. I know how to listen, I know how to council, and give advice, I know how to call someone when they least expect it just to ask about them, I know how to be there for anyone and everyone when they need someone just for the sake of being there, I know how to hold on to someone when they are crying for hours without the need to talk. I’m the type of person who will drop everything Im doing to help another person. I’m the type of person who will be there for you unconditionally, even if we are in a fight, I’m the type of person who will lift your spirit up when you are down, I’m the type of person who will strike a conversation with a stranger in the bus who is crying and contemplating ending his life (and yes it happened this semester). I will never leave someone on their own in their time of need. I know how to love (…) The only thing is that I'm still on the journey of  fully loving myself. But hey!, I'm human afterall, and I know I'm on the right path, and heck I probably understand what it means to love myself more than anyone out there, but have I fully accomplished it? Nope not yet, but that's just it,  life is a journey, and each day I am working toward fufilling that accomplishment.

Until then, I have faith.

Monday, 14 July 2014

We are human

Often, it’s not about running away from our feelings, but actually taking the time to listen to them. We don’t like to listen, people talk to us, and we are busy thinking of what we are going to say next.
Life is a test, so pick yourself up, get yourself together; look yourself in the mirror and say “ I deserve to be happy, I am beautiful, smart, intelligent, I am a human with emotions and before expecting others to love me, I want to love myself.”

Loving yourself is the key to the emotional jail we lock ourselves in. To allow yourself to love yourself is far more important than having someone love you. “We are responsible for our own happiness, be the reason why you smile, be the source of your happy.”- Amani

Have faith, there are far better things in life than what we are living now, it’s just a matter of believing in greater things and allowing yourself to rejuvenate in love.

Road blocks


To all the girls out there:

"I think that you should follow what your gut is telling you, mind over heart. ALWAYS. In the end when you deserve better, go for better, but sometimes we have to put everything aside and look at whether or not we see a future with someone. It's not always easy to be patient and wait, but time tends to mend or break things, sometimes we just have to let things be as they are. "

Waiting hurts, and what hurts even more is feeling lost and confused about how you are feeling about a certain someone. But thats just it, when it hurts it means its not good for you, it means take your distance. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about taking risks especially if you're heart is in it, but just be carefull. Don't jump in heart first, jump in mind first. See where the path leads you, but stay conscious and be aware, there may be a few bumps, and rough edges, at times there may even be road blocks, and unexpected ends, but only you can make the right turn, take the right shift to where you wish to go.

Have faith. Don't lose hope.

LET GO.


 
Dispute.

Little did she realize how much you cared about her
Little did she know that those butterflies in your stomach, she had caused them to occur
Little did she know that the thought of her kept you up all night
Little did she know that when everything went wrong, she made things alright
Little did she know that she was the sunshine when it would rain
Little did she know that you didn’t care about her looks; you were attracted to her brains
Little did she know that that she was what drove you insane
Because she never understood that she was the one who gave you hope to love again

Little did he know that she felt the exact same way,
But scared of getting hurt, she put up her mechanisms of defence and pushed him away
Little did he know that he made her laugh at almost everything that he would say
Yet she pretended it wasn’t funny, she didn’t want to come off as cliché
Little did he know that he made her smile everyday
He gave colour to her world that was shadowed in shades of black and gray
Little did he know that he’s what drove her insane
Because he never understood that he’s the one that gave her hope to love one day
(...)